I think American politics in general are in trouble. Liberals are not making meaningful political progress, we are stuck in a conversation-limiting frenzy of tribal defensiveness. Conservatives are no different, but your problem is that you are getting manipulated by your love of Country, Religion, and traditional values.
Either way we are both being played by people who are spinning a story of different-ness. Both parties in America are being run by unelected business leaders. Both parties benefit from keeping people like you and people like me hating one another. Let’s not give them the satisfaction.